Dating After Divorce
The Dating After Divorce podcast is for women ready to thrive in life and love after divorce. Host and dating mentor Belinda Youll shares expert tips, wisdom, and strategies to help attract lasting love. The podcast focuses on embodying Queen energy and calling in the relationship of your dreams.
Episodes
Finding The Right Relationship Starts Way Before You Find The Right Person
At 40, I was a single mum of two, coming out of the worst relationship of my life. Five years later, I met the man who's now my husband.What happened in between changed everything.In this episode, I'm sharing the decisions, uncomfortable realisations and work I did that completely transformed how I approached love. Why I stopped focusing on whether a man would choose me, and started asking whether
It Worked For Kim K and Me. Now It's Your Turn!
Four years before I met my husband, I wrote down exactly what I wanted in a man and a relationship. When I finally showed him what I'd written, he asked, “Did you just write this about me?”After hearing Kim Kardashian talk about how Lewis Hamilton ticked all 55 boxes on her manifestation list, I knew I had to share my own story.In this episode, I'm reading from my original 2018 journal and
Why Dating After 40 Requires A Completely Different Approach
Dating after 40, especially after divorce, is a completely different experience from dating in your 20s. So why are we still being given the same dating advice?When you're bringing two established lives together, attraction and chemistry are only part of the picture. There are children, co-parenting arrangements, careers, homes and the practical realities of building a life with someone new.In thi
The Grief I Didn't Know I Was Still Carrying
This is an unplanned, deeply personal bonus episode of Dating After Divorce.After an embodiment practice in a personal development course I'm doing, I found myself crying over experiences from nearly ten years ago. It brought up feelings I'd never really had the space to express, particularly around pregnancy, motherhood, a difficult relationship and the years that followed.I'm sharing
I Met the Love of My Life at 45. But My Story Starts at Rock Bottom.
At 40, I was a single mum of two, coming out of the most toxic and destructive relationship of my life. I was at absolute rock bottom, facing years of family court proceedings, and wondering how the hell I'd ended up there.Five years later, I met Rob on Bumble. He's now my husband and the greatest love of my life.But those five years in between changed everything.In this episode, I'm t
Beyond the 'New Year, New You' BS: Why Real Transformation Happens in the Shadows, Not Under Spotlights
Feeling the pressure of 'New Year, New You' dating resolutions? In this episode, we're challenging the surface-level transformation promises flooding your social media feed this January.
Discover why real dating transformation has nothing to do with vision boards or dating app makeovers - and everything to do with the quiet choices you make when no one's watching.
Learn why 'becoming' must prece
The Hidden Gift of 2024's Dating Disappointments: How Your 'Failed' Relationships Are Actually Preparing You for Extraordinary Love
As we step into 2025, are you looking back at your dating life in
2024 feeling disappointed, exhausted, or wondering if it was all just a waste of time?
In this powerful episode, I share why your dating 'failures' might actually be the foundation for your greatest love story yet. Through my own raw and real dating story, I reveal how a seemingly devastating dating disappointment became the cataly
All I Want For Christmas Is.....Anyone?: Your guide to Avoiding A Holiday Dating Hangover
Feeling the pressure to couple up this holiday season? In this episode we’re diving deep into why the holiday season often triggers us to lower our standards or rush into relationships we're not truly aligned with. Whether you're feeling the weight of another Christmas single or battling the urge to text your ex, this episode offers practical strategies for you to maintain your
queen energy when t
Single At Christmas (Again?): How To Go From Surviving Solo To Thriving Single These Holidays
Dreading another holiday season without your person? In this raw and real episode, I share my journey through 8 years of single Christmases before meeting my fiancé, and the perspective I wish I'd had sooner. You'll learn why those 'lonely' holidays were actually preparing me for the extraordinary love I have now, how to shift from surviving to savouring this season, and practical strategies to ma
Reclaiming Joy After Divorce: Re-discovering Who You Are Outside Your Previous Marriage
In this empowering episode, I take you on a journey from survival mode to soul-aligned joy after divorce. Through my
raw story of losing myself in a toxic relationship to rediscovering my authentic self as a single mom of two, I provide a practical roadmap for women who've forgotten what lights them up outside of being someone's wife.
You'll discover:
- Why "identity fusion" after marriage makes
Why Self Care Must Be Your Priority In Your Next Chapter After Divorce
In this episode I reveal why self-care is the necessary foundation for your Next Chapter after divorce and why it’s crucial to you ultimately attracting an aligned relationship that lasts, with the right man for you. Through my personal journey from outsourcing my happiness and ending up in a toxic relationship to discovering true self-worth, I share with you the "Self-Care 6" framework that chang
Embrace Your Story: Owning Your Divorce Without Shame
This powerful episode tackles the shame that often
accompanies divorce, providing you with neuroscience-backed strategies for releasing negative self-talk and embracing your story. Through real-life examples and practical exercises, I guide you to transform your narrative from one of shame to one of empowerment, hope and possibility.
JOIN 'THE NEXT CHAPTER': for women 40+ who are
Reframing Failure: Why Divorce Is Not The End Of Your Love Story
In this transformative episode, I challenge the notion that divorce equals failure, sharing my powerful journey
from being divorced at 33 and a single mama again at 40, to creating and attracting a life and love story better than I ever imagined at 45. Through raw honesty and deep wisdom, I reveal how what seems like failure can actually be your greatest initiation into love and life.
You'll disc
Your Divorce Is Not Your Destiny
In this powerful episode, I share my raw and transformative
journey from rock bottom to radical reinvention. From experiencing divorce at 33 to becoming a single mom again at 40, to finally creating my dream life and finding aligned love at 45, I reveal how what seems like your lowest moment can become the foundation for your greatest comeback.
Through personal stories and profound insights, you'
How To Prevent Dating Fatigue + Why Mindset Matters In Dating
In today’s episode I answer a question submitted by a Queen
in The Queen B Collective community about how to deal with dating fatigue. We also discuss why taking breaks can actually boost your chances of finding a fulfilling relationship and how your mindset plays a crucial role in attracting the love you want. I'll give you actionable tips to shift your energy, set boundaries and bring a more pos
How To Avoid Getting Hurt When You Start Dating Again After Divorce
In this episode, I tackle the big question: "How do I avoid getting hurt when I start dating again after my divorce?" While there’s no way to guarantee you’ll never experience hurt or disappointment, there are powerful strategies to protect your heart and set yourself up for success in dating—especially after divorce. I’ll dive into the importance of building self-worth, healing past wounds, and d
Is The First Man You Meet After Your Divorce Really The One? Here's Why He Probably Isn't
In this episode, I dive into the common trap many women fall into after divorce: thinking the first man you meet is "the one." While the excitement of new attention and connection can feel intoxicating after years of feeling disconnected, it’s important to take a step back and assess things with clarity. I’ll walk you through why it’s crucial to pump the brakes, how emotional vulnerability can le
Are You Being Too Rigid In Your Criteria For A Potential Partner?
In this episode, I dive into one of the most common questions I get asked: “Am I being too rigid or picky when it comes to dating?” We explore the difference between having healthy standards and being overly selective, and why it’s essential to be clear about your non-negotiables, values, and deal breakers. I’ll walk you through how to discern between your wants and needs in a partner, share insig
The 5 Key Differences Between An Aligned Relationship That Lasts And The Average Relationship Most People Settle For
In this episode, I walk you through the five powerful differences between a high-level, aligned relationship and the average relationship most people settle for.
Drawing from my personal experiences, I’ll help you recognise the key signs of a deeply loving, long-lasting relationship and show you why emotional depth, true partnership, and shared goals are non-negotiable.
If you’ve ever felt lik
Why Dating With Intention Is The Key To Attracting The Right Man For You
In this episode, I’m diving deep into why dating with intention is the game-changer for attracting a meaningful, aligned, and lasting relationship.
I’ve been there—after my divorce, I followed the standard dating advice: swiping constantly, cramming my schedule with dates, and hoping someone would eventually click. Spoiler: it didn’t work.
Today, I’m sharing my story of how shifting to dating w
How To Embody Your Queen Energy When Dating To Attract The Right Man For You
In this empowering episode, we dive deep into how to embody your Queen energy in the dating world to attract the right man for you. Learn four game-changing strategies that will transform your approach to dating after divorce:
Speak directly to your ideal partner, not to all men
Own your amazing qualities without playing small
Consistently show up as the highest version of yourself
Stay con
How Can I Tell If I'm Ready To Date Again?
In this episode, we tackle two common dating dilemmas faced by women over 40 after divorce.
First, we explore how to know if you're truly ready to re-enter the dating scene after the ending of a long-term relationship. Learn how to recognise the signs that you might need more healing time and how to approach dating with intention when you are ready.
Then, we address the frustrating issue o
The Identity Shifts You Need To Make To Attract Your Dream Relationship.
In this episode, we dive deep into the mindset and identity shifts you need to make to attract a deeply aligned, fulfilling relationship that lasts. It’s not just about tips and tricks — it's about who you become in the process. I’ll guide you through stepping into your Queen energy, building unshakable self-worth, and becoming the truest, most magnetic version of yourself. Whether you're
The Instant Gratification Traps Blocking You From Real Love
In this episode, we’re diving into the instant gratification traps in dating that are blocking you from finding real love.
When you’ve been single for a while, it’s easy to fall into the cycle of swiping for the rush, texting without meeting, or flirting for surface-level validation.
These behaviours might give you a quick dopamine hit, but they’re ultimately keeping you from the meaningful, com
You Are The MF'ing Author of Your Own Life!
In this empowering episode of "Dating After Divorce," we dive deep into the transformative process of taking control of your life after a significant relationship ends. Divorce and breakups can leave you feeling lost and stuck in a limbo between your past and a future that hasn't yet begun. But
today, I'm here to remind you that you are the MF'ing author of your own life!
In
Not Getting The Results You Want In Dating? Ask Yourself These 4 Questions....
Are you feeling frustrated with your dating life? Do you feel like no matter what you do, you're not finding the love you desire? You're not alone, and there is hope!
In this episode, I share four powerful questions that can help you uncover the root causes of your dating challenges and guide you towards a more fulfilling love life.
What do I actually believe is possible for me when i
The Power Of Owning Your Divorce Story
In this week’s episode of Dating After Divorce, I
delve into the transformative power of owning your divorce story. I share my personal journey of overcoming negative narratives and disempowering beliefs to reclaim my self-worth and open myself up to the possibility of real, lasting
love. Discover how reframing your story about your past and divorce can change your perspective and empower you to t
Your Next Chapter starts now!
In this transformative episode, I invite you to draw a line in the sand and step into your personal power. I'll give you a loving, honest kick up the backside to help you stop entertaining the problems and patterns you’ve outgrown!
You’ll learn:
How to own and reframe your divorce story.
The importance of deciding to become the author of your own life.
Practical steps to take courageous, alig
Do You Need To Be Fully Healed Before Dating Again After Divorce?
In today's episode, we tackle the often asked question: Do you have to be fully healed before you start dating again after divorce?
Divorce is a traumatic experience that can shatter your views on life, love, and relationships. While you may want to find love again, the fear of repeating past mistakes or getting hurt can hold you back. I share my personal journey and insights on this, emphasis
The Exact Process I Followed To Attract My Dream Partner After Divorce
In this episode, I take you through the exact process I followed to attract my dream partner.
After my divorce, my low self worth and unhealed 'stuff' led to me having disastrous dating experiences and ending up in a toxic relationship. But through the lessons learned from those experiences, years of self-reflection, inner work, therapy, and soul-searching, I developed a method that compl
How To Use Divorce As The Catalyst To Attracting The Relationship Of Your Dreams
Welcome to the very first episode of the Dating After Divorce podcast!
To kick the podcast off, I share the inspirational story of how I used divorce and the rock bottom of failed relationships as the catalyst to attracting the relationship of my dreams in my 40's - and explain how you can do the same!
Tune in for a mega dose of wisdom, tools, mindset shifts and hope to help you thrive in l
Welcome to The Dating After Divorce Podcast!
Welcome to Dating After Divorce, the podcast for women over 40 who still want extraordinary love, but after everything they've been through, are thinking, I really can't afford to get it wrong this time.I'm Belinda Bodill. I was a divorced single mum at 33. At 40, I was picking up the pieces of my life after leaving a relationship that had almost destroyed me. And at 45, I met the man
