The Good Girl Game Changers
The Good Girl Game Changers is a podcast for women who want to break free from restrictive “good girl” beliefs. Hosted by Dr. Michelle McQuaid and Evie Wright, it offers practical, evidence-based tools to help listeners embody their unique selves. The show also points listeners toward a newsletter and the Breaking Free Studio community, which provides recorded practices, downloadable tools, and peer support.
Episodes
Where Are You On Your Journey To Claiming Your Belonging?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioWhere are you on your journey to claiming your belonging? This week we share our own very different paths through masking, numbing and trying to buy our way in, what helped us realise
David Mallard: Do You Need To Grieve Your "Good Girl" Beliefs To Finally Let Them Go?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioDo you need to grieve your good girl beliefs to finally let them go? David Mallard joins Chelle to talk about the hidden doorways into grief, why healing means going into the dark as
Sonya Renee Taylor: Are You Still Trying To Prove You're Worthy?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioAre you still trying to prove you're worthy? In this interview Sonya Renee Taylor shares why belonging and worthiness are already yours, how to stop climbing other people's la
What If Grief And Awe Belong Together?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioWhen did you last let yourself grieve something you loved, or feel like you belonged somewhere without having to earn it? This week we unpack what nature has been teaching us about gr
Jim & Jenny Wright: Can Nature Help You Listen To Yourself Again?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioWhen did you last stop listening for what everyone else needs, and listen to the world around you? Evie's grandparents, Jim and Jenny Wright, join her from their veranda in the Que
Simon Coverdale: What Grief Are You Holding That Nature Could Help You Heal?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio What grief are you carrying right now? Is it the loss of someone you love, a relationship that's ended, a hope that didn't work out, or the heaviness of what's happening i
Claire Dunn: Can The Magical Trifecta Help You Heal?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioAre you fed up with trying to break free of your 'good girl' behaviours? Are you tired of trying to think your way to healing? Are you sick of doing it all on your own? In this
What's Joyfully Calling To Your Heart?
When was the last time you followed what joyfully called to your heart? We've been paying much closer attention to those tugs lately, and they've shaped where this new season of the podcast is heading. But it helps to go back to where we started.Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Stu
What If You Already Know How To Lead Your Self?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioAnd a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. Simply click here to discover more. Who's b
What If You Need More Time?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio And a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. Simply click here to discover more. You're
Who's Looking After You?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio And a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. Simply click here to discover more. What if the
What Does Your Body Need You To Know?
Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studioAnd a special for our wonderful listeners, you can get 25% off The Nervous System Advantage Toolbox using code GGGC25 at checkout. Simply click here to discover more. Your nervous sy
Why Do We Settle For Less?
Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio In this episode Sue shares the practical side of secure relating: how to move back toward connection from the red and blue zones, what rewiring actually requires, and why "safe enough" might be the most honest and liberating
Can You Trust Yourself Before Anyone Else?
Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio What if the reason you keep shrinking yourself, over-explaining, or shutting down emotionally has nothing to do with a character flaw — and everything to do with your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do? In this episode
You’ve Done The Work. So Why Is Your Inner Critic So Loud?
Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio What if your inner critic isn't the enemy and the real work isn't silencing it, but learning to be in a healthier relationship with it? In this episode, Evie and Chelle dig into the moments that have stayed with them since the
What's The Worst Thing People Might Discover About You?
Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio What if failing didn't mean you were fundamentally flawed but simply that you were human? In this episode, Chelle revisits her favourite conversation with Stanford professor and world-leading mindset researcher Dr. Carol Dweck, an
Are You As Kind To Yourself As You Are To Everyone Else?
Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio Have you ever noticed how easy it is to say something warm and encouraging to a friend who's struggling and how quickly that same generosity disappears the moment you turn it on yourself? According to Dr. Kristin Neff, one of the
Are You Safe Enough To Be Imperfect?
Join The Breaking Free Studio - 30 days free - recorded practices, downloadable tools and much more: https://www.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio When you remember a recent moment of tryingto be a ‘good girl" — performing perfectly, pleasing everyone, or protecting others at your own cost — who was really expecting you to behave that way?In our latest research, two years o
Can We Move Beyond Gender?
Have you ever walked away from a conversation about men and women feeling more stuck than when you started? You made your point. They made theirs. And somehow you both ended up further apart than before.It’s exhausting — the same arguments, the same defensiveness, the same feeling that for someone to win the other side has to lose. After a while, you start wondering: is there another way to do thi
Sarah Wilson: Why We Need Each Other Now
Have you noticed how quickly gender conversations turn into battles we can’t seem to win? She said this, he did that, who has it worse, who should apologize first. But once we’re locked in—your suffering versus mine, who should apologize first—we’re trapped in a zero-sum game. So how do we free our energy from the gender wars, not by hating the players but by changing the game?[00:00] Chelle intro
Celeste Davis: Can We Stop Playing The Blame Game?
Have you noticed how quickly conversations about gender turn into competitions about who has it worse? One side insists men are the real victims—look at the loneliness epidemic, the education gaps, the suicide rates. The other side counters that women are the real victims—look at the violence statistics, the unpaid labor, the centuries of having our voices silenced. Both sides race to claim the pr
How Gender Conditioning Keeps Us From Connecting
Ever noticed how much pressure there is for ‘good girls’ to perform compassion and for ‘strong boys’ to avoid it?[00:00] Evie & Chelle share the gender expectations they're shaking off.[02:00] Chelle shares Ah Ha #1: how early socialization creates deeply different relationships with compassion—women often perform it to earn love, while men armor up against it for survival.[06:20] Evie int
Dr. Paige Williams: What We Get Wrong About Accountability
Accountability isn’t about blame. It’s not about compliance. It’s actually about clarity, integrity, and honoring what matters in our relationships with each other. This is how compassion and accountability work together.[01:28] Chelle welcomes Paige and reflects on their past cliff-top conversation that inspired this episode.[02:27] Paige and Chelle explore how performance, protection, and discon
Dr. Chris Kukk: Can Compassion Bridge The Gender Divide?
Have you noticed how quickly conversations about gender turn into arguments about who has it worse? How we lose the ability to hear each other when we’re busy defending our own pain? This isn’t just emotionally draining—it’s neurologically impossible to connect this way. So how do we reach for compassion with each other?[01:50] Chelle and Chris define compassion and explore the four steps that hel
How Do We Heal The Gender Divide?
In our last two episodes, we spoke with Dr. Carol Gilligan and Dr. Niobe Way, whose forty years of research show how society’s gender expectations of being “good girls” and “strong boys” are creating a crisis of connection that’s costing all of us. So what do we do when we recognize so many of us are trapped by society’s gender expectations that were never ours to begin with?[0:02] Evie and Chelle
Dr. Niobe Way: Why 'Strong Boys' Are Struggling
Have you noticed how often the boys and men in your life struggle with emotional intimacy? They tend to pull away when feelings run high. They insist they’re fine when clearly they’re not. They seem unable to say what’s really going on.[0:02] Chelle introduces Season 3, Episode 3 and welcomes Dr. Niobe Way.[1:47] Niobe shares a 'good girl' expectation she's shaking off. [2:44] Niobe de
Dr. Carol Gilligan: The cost of staying silent
Have you ever felt stuck between two impossible choices—speak up and worry people will think you’re too much, or stay quiet and lose touch with who you really are? This is what Dr. Carol Gilligan calls a crisis of connection—caught between staying connected to others and staying connected to yourself.[1:35] Carol shares the ‘good girl’ belief she’s shaking off.[2:44] Carol explains how her researc
Are we stuck in the wrong conversation?
How do we protect each other? What do we all need to feel safe, seen, and valued—and how do we stop letting society’s gender expectations blind us to each other’s humanity?[0.50] Chelle introduces Season 3 of The Good Girl Game Changers podcast[1.49] Evie & Chelle share the gender expectations they're shaking off.[2.37] Chelle explains the theme of this season - gender compassion - and why
MINISERIES: What can you learn by speaking your truth?
As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl, we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life.In this episode, we explore why protecting
MINISERIES: Is pleasing others worth the price?
As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl, we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life.In this episode, we explore why pleasing othe
MINISERIES: What is perfection costing you?
As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl, we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life.In this episode, we explore why silencing our e
MINISERIES: Are you feeling all the feelings?
As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl, we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life.In this episode, we explore why silencing our emo
MINISERIES: What if you're already enough?
To celebrate the launch of the children's version of The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl, we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life. In this first episode, we explore the question: When, wher
Maureen (Mo) McKenna: The Conversation We All Need To Be Having
Do you find yourself feeling increasingly isolated despite being surrounded by people? How many opportunities for connection do you miss each day? What if the antidote to our social disconnection was as simple as pausing to notice the humanity in the stranger beside you?[02:02] Mo shares her concept of "rewilding" instead of retiring in her 70s.[07:38] Chelle and Mo discuss how they began huddling
What Happens When You Snap?
When you micromanage your team, do you explain it away as your "controlling part" without making amends? When you snap at a friend, do you blame it on your "defensive part" and move on? Or do you find ways to both honor these parts of you while taking responsibility for how they affect others?[02:47] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 about Gabby's four-step check-in process for connecting with parts[10.21] E
Gabrielle Bernstein: Next Time You're Triggered Try This
LISTEN NOW: 4 steps to turn reactivity into thoughtful responsesWhen was the last time you felt stretched so thin you could snap? Maybe someone dismissed your hard work with a casual criticism? Or perhaps one tiny detail fell through and suddenly you heard yourself unleashing a torrent of blame that didn't even sound like you?[0:52]: Chelle provides a quick recap of Internal Family Systems for lis
Are You Burning Bridges Or Building Them?
When was the last time you felt tempted to walk away from someone in your community who thinks differently than you? Maybe they have opposing political views, communicate in ways that frustrate you, or prioritize values that don't align with yours. In a world that feels increasingly polarized, it's tempting to believe that drawing hard lines and protecting our territory is the only way forward.[2:
Sophia Fifner: Who's Walking Toward Change With You?
Do you feel called to make a difference but unsure where to begin? Have you held back from getting involved with community groups because you don’t fit the loud, outspoken image of what an “activist” is supposed to be? In a world that feels increasingly fractured, finding authentic ways to engage has never mattered more.[0:02] Chelle introduces Sophia Fifner, author of The Advocate Next Door and p
Are You Stuck In Reactivity?
How are you showing up in your most important relationships? We all have moments where the people we love the most get the worst version of us. Why? Because when things feel hard, our protective parts often leap into action. [1:59] Chelle recaps Episode 11 with Anna Milaeva, certified transformational coach and co-founder of FINO.[3:23] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 on Anna's explanation of Internal
Anna Milaeva: How Do You Deal With Disagreements?
What do you do when a conversation gets uncomfortable? When someone’s perspective challenges yours, do you lean in, get defensive or shut down? It’s easy to retreat into habits of self-protection, but these moments don’t have to push us apart — they can be opportunities for deeper understanding, growth, and connection when we create a space of compassion for ourselves and each other.[0:57] Chelle
Do You Uplift Others?
Are you intentional about whose encouragement and support you seek out? Do you notice yourself or the women in your life silence achievements and downplay success to avoid seeming ‘boastful’? Is your instinct to compete and outshine, or to uplift and support other women?[2:06] Chelle and Evie recap Episode 9 with Kasey Edwards, columnist and bestselling author of ten books, including her latest Go
Kasey Edwards: How Do You Deal With Criticism?
Who do you allow to shape your opinion of yourself? Does criticism send you into a spiral of self-doubt that can last for days? When was the last time you lifted another woman up—and felt lifted in return?[1:27] Chelle introduces Kasey Edwards, Australian columnist and bestselling author. [1:46] Kasey shares a ‘good girl’ moment dealing with the launch of her new book "Goodbye Good Girl, Hell
How Do You Show Up To A Huddle?
When you gather in a group, do you arrive anxious and disconnected? Are you stuck in your head and unable to truly show up for the collective experience? Do you struggle to trust the natural flow of energy that emerges when people come together?[2:10] Chelle recaps Episode 7 with Tina Bruce, intuitive mentor, co-founder of Soul Wander retreats and author of Big Little Breath[3:57] Chelle shares ah
Tina Bruce: Can You Lead Without Being Perfect?
Are you feeling the call to bring women together in a ‘huddle’? Do you worry that you first need to have everything perfectly figured out? Does the thought of holding space for others leave you feeling overwhelmed?[0:57] Chelle introduces Tina Bruce, intuitive mentor, author and co-founder of Soul Wander retreats.[1:55] Tina shares a recent experience with her "good girl" being triggered
Do You Need Help Saying 'No'?
How many times this week have you agreed to do something you didn't want to do? Are you drowning in 'shoulds' while your own priorities get pushed aside? Does the thought of saying 'no' fill you with anxiety?[2:38] Chelle recaps the previous episode with Lindsey Godwin, Molly McGuigan, and Miriam Novotny co-authors of: Ditch The Ditty: Doing What Matters Instead of Doing It All
Lindsey Godwin, Molly McGuigan, Miriam Novotny: Why Do We Always Say Yes?
Do you exhaust yourself being the office superhero who can't say no? Are you the go-to person for tasks nobody else wants? Do you find yourself organizing the office party, managing the school fundraiser, and hosting family gatherings – all while secretly wishing someone else would step up?[01:38] Chelle introduces guests Lindsey Godwin, Molly McGuigan, and Miriam Novotny, authors of the new b
Evie Wright: Have you lost who you've dreamt of being?
Have you been taken by surprise to discover just how deeply society’s ‘good girl’ expectations shapes your choices? Do you find yourself wondering how these beliefs took hold, no matter how free-spirited your childhood may have been?
[0:02] Chelle introduces the podcast and Evie Wright, co-author of 'The Perfectly Imperfect Women's Journal'.
[1:56] Evie shares her compelling journey fr
Dr. Chelle McQuaid: Is Being 'Good' Costing You Too Much?
Do you remember the first time you learned you needed to be "good" to be loved? Perhaps it was a gold star for sitting quietly, or praise for putting others first, or the silent treatment when you spoke up too loudly. For Chelle, it was a little golden book that cost just 40 cents at the supermarket checkout - a book that would shape how she saw herself for decades to come.
[1:04] Evie i
Do You Know How To Huddle?
When it comes to connecting with others, do you know exactly who's in your huddle and how they support different areas of your life? Have you mastered the art of making clear asks when you need their help? Or do you tend to struggle to nurture the relationships you need?
[1:51] Chelle recaps Episode 1 with Brooke Baldwin, former CNN anchor and author of "Huddle: How Women Unlock Their Col
Brooke Baldwin: Do You Need A Huddle To Break Free?
Do you yearn for meaningful connections beyond quick coffee catch-ups and surface-level networking? Are you surrounded by women in your daily life - at work, in your neighborhood, or through your children - yet missing those deeper bonds of mutual support? Do you dream of having a powerful circle of women to celebrate your wins, lift you through challenges, and inspire your growth?[0:57] Chelle in
Who Helps You Stay True To Yourself?
When something triggers your perfectionism or people-pleasing, who helps you stay true to yourself? Do you have role models who show you what authentically pursuing your dreams looks like? Are there people in your life who celebrate rather than judge when you step outside society's 'good girl' expectations?
[3.00] Chelle announces how tools and resources work together to help us stay true to ourse
Breaking Free From Our 'Good Girl' Beliefs
Do you ever feel like you're constantly juggling expectations - both your own and others' - of who you're supposed to be and how you're supposed to show up in the world? Maybe you've been labeled as "too much" or "not enough." Perhaps you've found yourself exhausted from striving for an impossible standard of perfection or silencing your own needs to please others. If any of this resonates, you're
What's Holding You Back?
When fear shows up in your life, how do you typically respond? Do you stay safely within your comfort zone to avoid any risk of failure? Or have you learned to make peace with your fear and take courageous action anyway?
[1.55] Chelle shares her first a-ha about normalizing fear and regulating fear response.
[8.38] Evie introduces three powerful questions to check if fear is keeping us too safe.
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Dr. Margie Warrell: Do You Have A Courage Gap?
Do you find yourself playing it safe to keep others happy? Does the thought of disappointing people fill you with dread? What if your desire to be ‘good’ is actually stopping you from being great?
[0:54] Chelle introduces Dr. Margie Warrell, bestselling author and leadership advisor who helps organizations build cultures of courage.
[1:50] Margie shares a personal story about times she found it ha
Are You Over Functioning?
Do you find yourself constantly pushing to achieve more? Are you always trying to perfect everything you do? Or have you learned to sometimes put down the weight of endless ambition and just be present in your body?
[1:45] Chelle & Evie recap their conversation with Nahid de Belgeonne from Episode #23, introducing her as the "nervous system whisperer".
[2.44] Chelle shares her first a-ha: We'r
Nahid de Belgeonne: Are you protecting everyone but yourself?
Do you exhaust yourself trying to protect everyone else's wellbeing while ignoring your own needs? Have you become so skilled at silencing your body's signals that you only notice them when you're completely depleted? What if your nervous system is desperately trying to tell you something that could free you from these depleting patterns of self-sacrifice?
[0:03] Chelle introduces the Good Girl Ga
Are You Stuck In The Past?
Does your perfectionist part tend to micro-manage others at work? Or does your people-pleasing part rush to control your family dynamics? While these protective parts of you have good intentions, they're often stuck in outdated strategies that no longer serve you or others well. But how can you ask them to stand down?
[2.06] Chelle & Evie recap Episode 20 with Dr. Tori Olds who shared Internal
Dr. Tori Olds: Do You Trust Your Self?
What if those ‘good girl’ parts of you that seem stuck in old patterns - like perfectionism, people-pleasing, and protecting others - are actually trying to keep you safe? And what might change if you could help them trust that you're now capable of responding to life’s challenges in healthier ways?
[0.43] Chelle introduces Dr. Tori Olds, psychologist and co-founder of Deep Eddy Psychotherapy.
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How Do You Find Your Self?
When have you led with curiosity, compassion, clarity and calm? How have you shown up to challenging situations with courage, creativity, confidence, and connection? When your Self - with a capital S as identified in Internal Family Systems (IFS) practices - is present, what makes this wiser and kinder state possible?
[2.27] Chelle recaps episode #19 with Dr. Tori Olds where she introduced us to
Dr. Tori Olds: Can You Be Your Wisest And Kindest Self?
How does it feel when you’re the wisest and kindest version of yourself? What impact does it have on you and others? What might life be like if you could more consistently show up as the person you are capable of being?
[0.57] Chelle introduces Dr. Tori Olds psychologist and co-founder of Deep Eddy Psychotherapy.
[1.48] Tori shares a 'Uniquely You' moment she remembers from her childhood.
[3.57] T
Dr. Dan Siegel: Do You Really Belong?
When it comes to the relationships you prioritize in your life - family, friends, colleagues, and community - do you really belong, or are you just fitting in?
[0.46] Chelle introduces Dr. Dan Siegel, founding co-director of the Mindful Awareness Research Center at UCLA and the executive director of the Mindsight Institute.
[1.42] Dan shares his tool on how understanding our brain is in the 'palm
Do You Show Up For Yourself?
When you’re struggling, how do you show up for yourself? Do you stoically push through whatever challenge you’re facing? Do you distract yourself by running around and helping others? Or do you make the space to sit down and listen to what your body and brain need you to know?
[1.46] Chelle introduces Dr. Dan Siegel and explains why we're unpacking some of the comments and ideas in this ah-ha podc
Are You Scared To Set Boundaries?
When it comes to setting and honoring the healthy boundaries you need in your life, are you scared of how other people will respond? Will your family be mad? Will your friends be hurt? Will your colleagues be upset?
[1.49] Michelle recaps episode #15 with Juliane Taylor Shore on the six steps to boundary setting.
[5.59] Michelle shares Ah-ha #1 and Evie & Michelle walk through the six steps t
Juliane Taylor Shore: Six Steps To Setting Boundaries That Stick
When it comes to setting boundaries, do you send others mixed signals instead of clear messages? Are your efforts to communicate what you need packed with awkward moments or kind connections? Do you come away second-guessing yourself or full of self-respect?
1.33 Chelle & Juliane review the four different types of boundaries we need for our brains to feel safe.
2.20 Step 1: Find your big why
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What Boundaries Do You Need To Set?
When it comes to setting better boundaries, it helps to start by figuring out exactly what kind of boundary you most need. Is it an external boundary (between you and someone else), an internal boundary (the work you do to support yourself), or both? And how do you figure this out?
[2.24] Michelle recaps Episode 13 with Juliane Taylor Shore on setting healthy boundaries.
[4.13] Michelle shares Ah
Juliane Taylor Shore: Do You Need To Set Better Boundaries?
When it comes to feeling respected and valued in your relationships, do you know when to make requests and when to set boundaries? Or do you spin your wheels making complaints or issuing demands instead?
[0.57] Michelle introduces Juliane Taylor Shore.
[1.52] Juliane shares her Uniquely You moment with us.
[4.51] Juliane explains why boundaries are a way for people to be more connected to one anot
How To Safely Connect With Others
When it comes to connecting with others, does your nervous system tend to run “too hot” or “too cold”? Or are you able to live in the secure relating sweet spot of “just right”, even when your relationships become challenging?
[1.52] Michelle recaps Episode 11 - Part 2 of the podcast with Sue Marriott on Secure Relating.
[2.54] Evie reintroduces the "zones of relating", in particular Th
Sue Marriott: Do You Find It Hard To Trust Others?
Do you find it hard to trust others? Do you long to have closer relationships but find yourself overwhelmed with anxiety and fear when people want you to open up? Do you find being emotionally close with others confusing and exhausting?
[1.18] Michelle and Sue summarise part 1 of the conversation around secure relating and the "zones" of relating.
[4.40] Sue helps us understand more abou
Are You A People Pleaser?
When your interactions with others become challenging, how does your nervous system respond? Are you able to stay grounded with your connection circuits turned on? Or do your protection circuits take over and turn you into a people-pleasing or protecting machine?
[3.14] Michelle recaps episode 9 with Sue Marriott, starting with the definition of secure attachment.
[5.38] Michelle shares Sue's
Sue Marriott: Are You Securely Attached To Yourself?
When it comes to your relationships, do you bend over backwards to please others in the hope they’ll love you in return? Do you play it cool and silence your needs in the hope they’ll admire and respect you? Or, are you able to interact in ways that embody trust and love for yourself and others?
[4.20] Sue explains secure attachment and how it impacts our relationships.
[7.14] Sue shares how 
The Gifts Of Anger & Envy
When you feel envy or anger, how do you respond? Do you put on your kindest face for everyone to admire, while viciously criticizing yourself for being petty and mean on the inside? Or do try to rid yourself of these emotions by shaming and blaming the people who made you feel this way?
[2.20] - Chelle & Evie unpack the recent podcast with Elise Leohnen and how she helped us to unpack how our
Elise Loehnen: Why Do We Feel The Need To Be 'Good Girls'?
Growing up, were you encouraged to be a ‘good girl’? Do you find yourself, even as an adult, still struggling to meet this impossible set of expectations? Where do these beliefs come from, and why are they so hard to free ourselves of?
[1.36] Elise shares a 'good girl' belief she has been working on recently.
[4.05] Elise explains why so many women believe they need to be 'good girls
Do You See Criticism As A Gift?
When someone offers you feedback or criticism, how does your body respond? Do you brace yourself for the sharp pain of hearing you’re not good enough? Or does your heart open up with appreciation, and your mind fire up with curiosity for the opportunity to learn? How might a growth mindset help you listen to feedback with self-compassion?
[2.34] - Chelle & Evie unpack Dr. Carol Dweck's def
Dr. Carol Dweck: Can A Growth Mindset Free You From Chasing Perfectionism?
Do you hustle through your days chasing perfection? Does the prospect of failing fill you with fear? Is feedback and criticism painful to hear? Then, practicing a growth mindset could help free you from your 'good girl' hustle for perfection.
[2.33] Carol defines the difference between a fixed and a
growth mindset.
[3.38] Carol shares how fixed and growth mindsets impact our confidence.
The Best Question To Ask If You're Struggling
When you’re struggling what do you say to yourself? Studies suggest many of us say horrible things to ourselves in these moments like: “You're so stupid!”, “You’re such a loser!”, “No wonder no one loves you!" or worse. But what's the best question to ask ourselves in these moments?
[2.40] The most common tool women report using to break free of their 'good girl' beliefs and e
Dr Kristin Neff: Do You Need Fierce Self-Compassion?
Do you find it difficult to say “no”? Are you scared of setting boundaries? Can you confidently and calmly stand up for yourself? If mastering these skills feels like it might stretch you well outside your comfort zone, then Dr. Kristin Neff's skills of fierce self-compassion may help.
[1.31] Kristin explains why studies suggest women struggle more with self-compassion more than men.
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Why 'Good Girls' Burnout
The two questions every 'good girl' needs to ask.
We’ve been asking woman all over the world what being a ‘good girl’ means to them. Most of them shared early childhood memories between the ages of 6 – 11 where usually a family member or a teacher had encouraged them to be a ‘good girl’ if they wanted to be safe, successful, and loved.
We've found for many women this early childhood e
