Friend Crush with Amber Akilla
Friend Crush with Amber Akilla is a podcast hosted by Amber Akilla, an Australian Chinese creative based in Shanghai. The show explores topics like friendship, love, relationships, dating, pop culture, politics, and self-empowerment. It offers a mix of personal anecdotes and critical thoughts in a fun, chaotic style. Subscriber-only episodes are available on Patreon.
Episodes
flop era survivor: five ways to protect your slay
following from my previous "how to turn a flop into a flopportunity" video - once you've survived the flop, here are five things to consider when maintaining and protecting your slay. after a challenging or down period, its easy to become careless or develop blindspots once we think we've moved on from something, but that can also lead to blindspots and creating an unsustainable cycle. these are s
DIVA FREQUENCY 11;11
welcome to our first meditation/affirmations track!!!produced and written by meeeeemake sure to set aside some undistracted time to do the meditation for maximum relaxation !!!MERCH COMING VERY SOON - SIGN UP FOR UPDATES AND GET A DISCOUNT CODE!!friendcrush.club follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/i’m on substack!!!https://substack.com/@amberakillasubscribe for friend crush club gr
DIVA FREQUENCY 4:44 affirmations + meditation
shorter version of the 11:11 Diva Frequency track for when you're on the go or need a quick recalibration!!! produced and written by meeeeemake sure to set aside some undistracted time to do the meditation for maximum relaxation !!!MERCH COMING VERY SOON - SIGN UP FOR UPDATES AND GET A DISCOUNT CODE!!friendcrush.club follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/i’m on substack!!!https://sub
DIVA FREQUENCY 11:11 - affirmations + meditation
welcome to our first meditation/affirmations track!!!produced and written by meeeeemake sure to set aside some undistracted time to do the meditation for maximum relaxation !!!MERCH COMING VERY SOON - SIGN UP FOR UPDATES AND GET A DISCOUNT CODE!!friendcrush.club follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/i’m on substack!!!https://substack.com/@amberakillasubscribe for friend crush club gr
sovereignty vs selfishness: setting boundaries in a mentally ill society
youtube video: https://youtu.be/_rVMkThrBawthere aren’t enough words in the english dictionary to describe women who are living their best life and have healthy boundaries. we always have to reclaim language that has previously been used to disempower or judge women. anytime a woman makes herself less available for other people so that she can focus on herself and her own needs, she is labelled ‘s
NATURE ABHORS A VACUUM: KEEP IN MIND AFTER A TOXIC SITUATION
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/YtpeBQxoROowhen you think you'll never be in a toxic relationship/friendship/job again and you walk away from one and into another ... lmao00:00 intro01:06 - empty space is unnatural and nature will find a way to fill it01:42 - acknowledging that you are weak in order to become strong03:09 - flop and slay coexist04:09 - its not just the goal its also the managemen
how to turn a flop into a flopportunity
youtube video: https://youtu.be/Y9iQ_MYCIGUnever let a flop go to waste!!!!!Hegel said that negativity is precisely what keeps existence alive. Not negativity in a psychological sense, but in a philosophical sense. You don't know what positivity is without negativity. If you only had the power to do things, you would lose the ability to not do things and rest. If you only think, then your thoughts
how to minimize overthinking so you can focus on being hot
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/0ShM2LgCVREsome thoughts on over-thinking and rumination and how i turned my depression around!!! something that i didn't mention was to challenge myself to become more solution driven in my thinking - which was kind of the catalyst for my podcast and content! i thought, if i'm going to overthink about things then i may as well try to be coherent and in a way that
it's not the thing, it's your relationship to the thing: rewiring your brain
i think it's called meta-cognition when you observe your internal relationships to external things... the relationship between self and object, rather than the object itself. i'm not denying the realities of oppressive systems and real harm, more like how you might be able to navigate them from a more empowered place so you can be hot & have fun in a way that makes sense to you!!! ~~ as alway
decentering your hometown: hard to love yourself when you hate where you're from
some thoughts on how my relationship with my hometown and childhood trauma has changed over time for anyone that might be or has struggled with something similar. its not where you're from, but your relationship to the place, the memory and the role it plays in your life that matters. let me know your thoughts too! ♡follow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/i’m on substack!!!https://subs
navigating the creative industry - visibility, creative freedom & status
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/Jer_eAG1q1severyone is creating, everyone is creative!!! your desire to create is valid whether you pursue it as a hobby, side-quest, side-hustle or a career! one creative skill might take many forms in different stages of your life. sharing my thoughts and observations based on my own personal experience on how you can explore, refine and navigate your creativity
the first pillar of self-esteem: the practice of living consciously
this week’s video is a deeper dive into the first pillar of self-esteem - the practice of living consciously!The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem x Being Hot & Having Fun Sentence Completion Exerciseshttps://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/the-six-pillars-of-self-esteem-x-being-hot-having-fun-sentence-completionThe Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Brandenhttps://amzn.to/496J0SD (*) affiliate link
baddie book club: being your own bestie, living consciously, journalling
very delayed upload of the last baddie book club discussion session!!!i needed to optimise the audio - apologies for some of the echo but i still felt like it was important to share because so many insights were shared!! thank you to the baddies that attended and bravely shared their thoughts.based on this section of the book:Readings 2: Living Consciously and Self-AcceptanceReading: Part II Inter
consumption is not a hobby
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/ndawrsGy3F4please share how your journey with creating/consuming/compensated and participating has or is evolving!!!0:0001:27 - define the terms/auditing your consumption habits - consumer, creator, compensated, participant03:13 - define being hot & having fun according to your core values04:04 - check for energy leaks04:25 - doing things with budget restricti
flop eras, shrek-gate, ego death, supporting women's rights & wrongs
recording of a tiktok/youtube live on 24.02.2026 !video version: https://youtu.be/xIduRHUSvUM00:00 - recent obsessions02:00 - being a woman in corporate07:15 - dealing with insecure/intimidated women08:03 - navigating a flop era10:22 - current fave beauty products11:56 - not taking things personally/detachment 14:56 - talking stages15:45 - freelancing17:26 - somatic exercises17:51 - comparing your
never argue with a man for free
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/bJ1Ow4RFuW4the irony of me filming this a week before that sh*k video oop at least you know i practice what i preach heheyou life and your journey is for you to own. other people can disagree and say you're problematic but even then, no one is going to be strong-armed into a better version of themselves. even the most problematic people from your point of view nee
decentering men while dating, first loves, envy, work crushes, casual hook ups
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/0doV1ZWLOKMpart two of the 2020 Love, Lust & Loathing Q&A!! thank you for your patience ~ make sure to watch the first video on limerence too!00:0000:10 - navigating female friendships when decentering romance03:23 - maintaining sovereignty while dating06:54 - my perspective on romantic love and pressures to settle down or be in a relationship11:30 - how t
how to lock-in so hard your crush dies (metaphorically): limerence, yearning & being delusional
ok so i originally said this was going to be one long video with an accompanying substack article - now it will be a few videos with one or more substack articles… stay tuned! i hope you enjoy the first instalment of the 2026 love, lust & loathing valentine’s day series! this started as a mix series on soundcloud (you can still listen to the previous mixes) but in 2024 i added a lil Q&A wh
baddie book club vol. 1 week 1: discussion session ☆ the six pillars of self-esteem
audio recording of our first baddie book club discussion session!! thank you to the baddies who attended and shared their questions, thoughts and feelings! if you would like to join the baddie book club, please join us on patreon! i am re-working the reading schedule and am open to hosting additional discussion sessions to accommodate different timezones. let me know!!! ♡ please share your own ins
when your bestie becomes a stranger - social circles & types of friendship
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/DhFmgfKp73Q?si=D7aWmgHwrbQueGq3outlining some ideas around different types of connection and social circles - this is just a starting point and i actually found out about aristotle's 'types of friendship' (pleasure, utility, virtue) after filming this video and there's a lot of parallels between what is discussed in the video, so i would say its kind of like an ex
people pleasing dynamics (GRWM)
my thoughts on the people pleasing dynamic. i think healthy, balanced relationships take more work that we are willing to admit and it starts with your relationship with yourself first :') more thoughts to come!!!! let me know yours too!!!01:10 1. people pleasing dynamic02:29 2. connotations of people pleasing03:46 3. re-defining love04:07 4. underlying mindset04:42 5. being questioned/dismissed05
are all relationships transactional? what vibe do you bring to the function?
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/e4hrPViYKK8using an analogy about food to talk about transactional relationships and energy exchange. often times we are too externally focused on how other people behave and guessing their intentions. in reality, i feel like when you are locked in on what YOUR intentions are and contributing/giving/showing up from an authentic place, you take everything less pers
the book that changed my brain chemistry: the six pillars of self-esteem
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/boT5swEW5vsif you've been following me for a while, you'll probably have heard me reference and recommend this book over and over. the six pillars of self-esteem by nathaniel branden literally changed my life, it put so much of what i was struggling to put into practice, into words and actionable steps. i can't recommend this book enough!!! rather than just repeat
non-negotiable hobbies for confidence: my pole dance journey
i’ve been going on about the importance of a non-negotiable hobby for ages and i’ve also had a lot of questions about pole dance so this is a video that covers both!! 01:05 - non-negotiable hobby: defined 05:40 - my journey with pole dance 08:39 - dance & sexuality/sexuality 10:36 - the power of consistency & practice 11:06 - static vs spin pole 11:39 - tricks vs choreo 13:16 - buying heel
parents: avoid over-communicating and become living proof
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/fCgEU8hkT2Ai get a lot of questions about how to handle conflict with parents. while i can't speak to the nuances of every relationship, here are some thoughts and feelings that i hope might be applicable or helpful. i know the holiday season can be really overwhelming for some people and i think there are ways we can prepare so that we aren't wasting too much ene
you can't afford to be nonchalant - trying is cool
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/l2Fnj9WalcUtrying is cool !!!!!! 01:26 - nonchalant definitions & connotations 02:46 - the opposite of nonchalant 04:13 - what being “chalant” requires of you 05:22 - don’t compare their end result to your first step 06:05 - familiarize yourself with the discomfort of progress 06:51 - what is the value you want in the process vs the outcome 07:37 - the only pe
the pick-me seed: internalised misogyny, patriarchy, de-centering men
an intro to how i think about and practice awareness around patriarchal conditioning, internalised misogyny and de-centering men. a very complex topic which i hope we can further explore together. for many women the only thing between them and their next slay is a man or the imagined gaze of a man........ let's de-condition together!! i have a patreon only video about recent encounters that made m
passion for your job is overrated
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/vOWAI0hOp-Mhi baddies ~ here are some thoughts for anyone feeling overwhelmed about their job and how it fits into their identity or feel like there's something wrong with them that they don't feel 'passionate' about their job. obviously this is a very nuanced topic and this is just one perspective. let me know what you think, share your experiences and let me kno
energy vampires & negging
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/8Opz3x8ws48be mindful of who you give vibe donations to!!!! 01:57 - 1. low vs high vibrations 05:09 - 2. self-awareness 06:12 - 3. superficial connections 07:16 - 4. vibe donation 10:44 - 5. check for blindspots 13:37 - 6. define the vibe you want for your life 16:06 - 7. negging 17:58 - 8. emotional voids 18:52 - 9. protect yourself 19:47 - 10. what is being exch
is having a boyfriend embarrassing now? british vogue article thoughts & feelings
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/TblTGkOemwIi got sent videos about this article by so many people i decided to just share some thoughts in a video!! i think the article was great and is indicative of a shift in how people view and value relationship status as part of their identity and self-worth.read the article here: https://www.vogue.co.uk/article/is-having-a-boyfriend-embarrassing-nowbooks m
if you can't do it scared, do it ironically: micro-dosing risk, getting out of your comfort zone
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/0u9iMbXQhV8DO IT FIRST AND LAUGH IT OFF LATER :D1:56 - internet illusions3:33 - micro-dosing risk4:14 - understanding your patterns7:25 - breaking patterns9:02 - its not hard its just new10:41 - yolo11:31 - do it ironically14:19 - gaslight yourself14:36 - work with your authentic voice15:31 - focus on consistency17:17 - appreciate contrast17:57 - protect your self
all of your time is equally valuable ☆ being present
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/qXdL5JjLVAwwe are constantly being sold the illusion that time which is paid for is the most 'valuable' time which can allow for anxiety and depression to build up. having awareness and intention in how we spend our time and ensuring that we are able to bring ourselves back to the present moment is one of the most radical things we can do in an attention economy.1
increase your baseline: discipline, acceptance, life audit, baby steps, being hot & having fun!!!
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/qXdL5JjLVAwthank you so much for subscribing and supporting the channel angels!!!this is a long one so strap in. something i didn't mention was of course to also consult mental health professionals when you're going through it.sometimes its worth going even when things seem like they're fine just for a lil check up and deep dive.let me know in the comments what ha
UNDERSTANDING LOVE: DEFINING CONNECTION
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/mqu4RRzr2oowhat is love.mp3book mentioned: the road less travelled by m. scott peck (*)https://amzn.to/496J0SDother love related videos by meee:is love a neurochemical con job? (podcast) https://youtu.be/uXvumVQkeBEdating after a first love (podcast) https://youtu.be/igKB7V3pvcUgirl boss vs lover girl wanting romance & commitment https://youtu.be/FwplRB_SIegdo
it's not the boy you're crying over: the crying gap - standards, expectations vs reality
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/UJOsMitowCIfollow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundlesubscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/ambera
everything is vibes - be hot and have fun!!!
youtube episode: https://youtu.be/1mv6EZX003Yfollow me on IG ☆ https://instagram.com/amberakilla/autumn in my arms playlist !!! https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1443BT6zmwdWnRx9nCP1tf?si=f954fb299af54270slay habit trackers ☆ free download https://www.friendcrush.club/shop/p/hot-girl-slay-habits-e-bundlesubscribe for friend crush club groupchat, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡ patreon.com/ambera
rethinking imposter syndrome
i got asked about imposter syndrome recently, there's definitely some overlap with comparing yourself to others (see previous video) but i made this video as an add on/extension. let me know your thoughts as always please!! my skin looks so bad here but i was too lazy to put a filter on so i'm keeping it 99 !!!xx02:30 - everyone is a newbie at some point03:28 - confidence revised04:10 - life is a
hot girls don't let comparison be the thief of joy
talking through the mental blocks that can occur when we get stuck on comparing ourselves to others in a way that hinders our ability to be HOT and HAVE FUN !!!03:33 - radical acceptance05:11 - practicing gratitude07:07 - set intentions07:52 - lean into irony when being serious feels like a joke08:37 - abundance vs delusion09:45 - your mindset affects your decision making11:00 - awareness + intent
what to do when you don't know what to do
that overwhelming "wtf" feeling01:54 - context can differ, dyanmic/feelings are usually consistent02:45 - its better to do something, rather than nothing03:12 - don’t let perfect be the enemy of good04:06 - learn to be a beginner05:23 - what i learnt during the panini (external changes)06:43 - noticing the negative thought pattern: “when x happens, then i can be happy”06:48 - lean into how you fee
growth doesn't have an aesthetic
a short video with a gentle reminder that your mental/spiritual/emotional growth doesn't have to look a certain way in order to be valid. maybe your physical and mental glow up happens at the same time and it will be more effective when you are intentional about integrating the range of skills and experiences required - many of which i discuss in previous video and podcast content. please share yo
kindness is never weakness
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indifference is the best revenge ╮( ˘_˘ )╭
when being the bigger person is overratedif you wish me bad, i wish you _____ !!!!01:53 - 04:25 - 1. define love, acknowledge your efforts04:25 - 05:21 - 2. what fantasy or potential did you become attached to05:22 - 05:52 - 3. withdraw your effort05:53 - 09:07 - 4. redirect, transmute & alchemize your energy09:08 - 11:30 - 5. neutrality over positivity (for now)11:31 - 14:36 - 6. be prepared & tr
MOVING TO A NEW CITY - should you move, dating, making new friends
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be crazy in private so you can focus on being hot in public: journalling
watch this if you're looking to start or still skeptical about journalling !!!4:36 the artist’s way, being consistent5:45 free printables & habit trackers5:54 the six pillars of self esteem6:42 create a judgement free space for your thoughts7:38 you don’t have to revisit or re-read8:34 normalize crashing out in private10:02 allow for new thoughts11:25 positive scripting12:05 re-affirm whats import
is your bestie acting like a hater? (female bullying & passive aggression)
girl, you might be a VICTIM??!!!referenced video on female bullyinghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DL5qDFDttps4:46 indirect, passive agression5:45 group size6:20 incompatibility 6:54 social isolation & the grey zone7:12 jealousy & envy7:32 aggression inhibitors8:13 being hot is a threat11:15 prevention11:35 avoid emotional reactions12:03 employ humour/wit12:35 insecurity/second chances12:53 get so
don't let a fear of cringe get in the way of slaying
hope this helps!!! let me know :Pchronically online behviournobody cares that muchembrace the discomfort & cringebaby steps & experimental approachcreate your own metric systempeople that have reconciled with their cringe, won’t judge youwhat is your value addbe real with yourselfradical acceptanceembrace evolutionsubscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡patreon.com/amberakillaht
how hot girls make friends ☆
some additional thoughts on how to adjust your mindset to make new friends. share your thoughts and experiences with me in the comments!!!referenced videos:30 & feeling lonely and disconnected:https://youtu.be/d31wkPGXUd0do what you enjoy:https://youtu.be/M_7URMkKPR8hot girl habits:https://youtu.be/DszRCbx0_AEsubscribe for full episodes, exclusive episodes & perks! ♡patreon.com/amberakillahttps:/
real baddie behaviour
what does it really take to be a “baddie”? to me, being a baddie is more than just an aesthetic, its an attitude, and one that you have to define for yourself and EXECUTE!!!!!! baddie defined personalise your approach success is not the absence of failure example process your emotions two approaches sense of humour grey-rock baddie in training be prepared to walk away define your bottom l
the philosophy of being hot & having fun (re-introduction for youtube))
don't forget to slay!!!
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before (or after) you send that essay text
let's start speaking to the manager within!!!
self-confrontation
self-responsibility
meeting other people's needs at the expense of your own
maybe YOU need to validate you
they aint reading all that
make note of your blind spots
the urge to purge is the means, NOT sending the essay text is the end
process your anger
true compatibility feels like peace, not war
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the price of slaying is haters
sometimes you wanting the best for yourself and others, triggers the worst in people you actually care about........... SURPRISE!!!! it definitely surprised me...
1. any relationship context
2. nothing can prepare you
3. keep slaying
4. focus on the incompatibility rather than assigning blame
5. not everyone wants to slay
6. beware of selfish ass hoes
7. their behaviour is a projection
8. interna
things i learnt about friendship in my 20s
slive slaugh slove slearn and slay !
let me know your thoughts, feelings and lessons on friendship in the comments!!
1. better to have no friends than bad friends
2. define your inner and outer circle
3. drifting isn’t a bad thing
4. your friends are not your therapist, you are not your friends’ therapist
5. your friends are your cheerleaders
6. you can’t save other people from their bad decision
situationships are self harm
2025 only hit me up about the situationships you've ended, not the situationships you're in please & thank you xoxo
1. situationship defined
2. committment from a man is not a prize
3. you’re putting the vibes in jeopardy
4. this is incompatibility not a challenge
5. compatibility is not this hard
6. take yourself seriously
7. your trauma response is not your fault, but it is your responsibility
how to start new habits when your brain is mush
some thoughts and suggestions on habits that worked for me in my darkest most flop hour... lay the foundation for your next slay, today!!!!!!
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1. 1% rule
2. visualise your brain garden
3. habit replacement
4. gaslight into a slay
5. give yourself a treat
6. rewrite your inner narrative
7. hab
how to cure your chronically online clownery
a list of practices and considerations i have used for digital distancing and to manage a healthier relationship with the internet and social media. its really use or be used, so make sure you set boundaries and protect your peace!!!
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30 things i learnt before 30 pt.2
part two of my 30 things i realised before 30!!!
let me know what you thought of this video and if you have any specific topic requests~~
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30 things i learnt before 30 pt.1
sliving my slife ☆
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how to be confident & unbothered
hope this helps ^_^
1. you are bored
1.1 get a life
1.2 find purpose
1.3 80/20 rule
1.4 exercise free will
1.5 get a hobby
1.6 enjoy your life
2. you are a hater
2.1 judgement others & yourself
2.2 work with what you got
2.3 managing insecurity
2.3.1 journalling
2.3.2 personal jokes
2.3.3 #BEREAL
2.4 encourage others
2.5 redefine success
2.6 limit e
do what you enjoy
guys my video didnt record, please forgive me. we will do better next time :~)
anyways lets talk about the importance of doing what you enjoy for self empowerment and understanding. building awareness around how we feel and what we think in order to be hot and have fun yay!!
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the disrespect is the closure
recent thoughts on closure and the illusion that an another person can give it to you. how can we think about overwhelming emotional experiences and 'closure' in a way that allows us to move forward in healthy and productive ways that facilitate a life of being hot and having fun??
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hot girl habits for crazy b*tches ☆
*life when you realize that conventional wisdom does kinda have value* hopefully this video makes some of these habits more appealing to you if you've ever been skeptical about what it might take to help you build the foundation to being hot and having fun!! i was a hater but ... i ran out of excuses and honestly integrating these practices consistently have really changed my life in ways unhealth
100 - miss you
i feel like i haven't done a proper podcast episode in ages but its also not the longest break i've taken... abridged life update incoming ..! i made it to naoshima island, visited perth for the longest period since moving back to shanghai in 2022 and been reflecting on my 20s now that i'm in my 30s. thank you so so much to anyone that has supported me through all the different content creation ph
99 - FIGHT BACK (defending against haters)
In this episode, we're diving deeper into the world of haters and exploring strategies to fight back and reclaim our power. Building upon last week's discussion on the general vibe of haters (rancid), we're now delving into actionable steps to address their negativity head-on.
Is it worth fighting back against haters, or should our energy be focused elsewhere? How can we maintain our peace of mind
98 - haters gonna hate: psychology behind criticism & negative feedback
In this podcast episode, we delve into the intriguing topic of dealing with haters – those individuals who seem to go out of their way to criticize and spread negativity. But wait, this isn't your typical discussion on handling constructive criticism; we're focusing specifically on those who are just plain rude and judgmental for no apparent reason.
Ever felt like someone made their problem your p
97 - girl confessions: visa marriage, divorce, celibacy, living with men
!!! Serious Trigger Warning for SA in this Episode !!!
WATCH VIDEO EPISODE : https://youtu.be/_GydjUIgPAM
In this episode of "Girl Confessions," our guest Seven bravely shares her deeply personal journey, starting from running away from home in China to embarking on a tumultuous adventure that led her to Canada. She opens up about her experience of entering into a visa marriage, navigating the com
96 - leaving your hometown: navigating new beginnings, cutting ties
In this episode, I delve into the personal journey of leaving my hometown, Perth, and the social challenges I faced during that transition. While my departure wasn't the smoothest, I navigated the change as best as I could at the time, and I've come to terms with my actions since then.
Leaving one's hometown, especially from a smaller or more isolated place like Perth, can come with a unique set o
95 - girl confessions: lovebombed by a creative director and unhinged flings - exploring modern romance
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Welcome back to another episode of "Girl Confessions"! Today, we've got another juicy installment for you. Miss Lisa spills the tea on her whirlwind romance with a creative director, complete with unexpected twists and turns.
Get ready to hear all about the rollercoaster ride of lovebombing, flaky boys, and dating app adventures in Tokyo. But that'
94 - full-time vs freelance: navigating your career path
In this week's episode, we delve into the ever-relevant topic of "Full-Time vs Freelance" work arrangements. Join us as we unravel the romanticized notions surrounding freelance work and explore nuance in the pros and cons of both career paths.
With careful consideration, we navigate the myriad factors that individuals must weigh when making the leap from full-time employment to freelance. From fi
93 - nice guys & pick-me girls: gender expectations
Welcome to Episode 93! In this week's episode, we dive deep into the intriguing topic of "Nice Guys" and "Pick-Me Girls". Join me as we explore the similarities and differences between these two personas, and dissect the confusing connection between seeking validation and genuine connection.
We'll unravel the complexities of gender expectations in modern dating and interrogate the roots of insecur
92 - girl confessions: crazy girlfriend era, delusional crushes & becoming secure
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Welcome to this week's episode of "Girl Confessions"! Join us as we dive deep into the world of relationships and self-discovery with our special guest, Sandy. In this candid conversation, Sandy shares her experiences of being a 'crazy' girlfriend, navigating toxic patterns with boys, and the unexpected benefits of having an unhinged crush.
Get rea
91 - go where you're appreciated: finding self worth in the right places
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Welcome to "Go Where You're Appreciated: Finding Value and Self-Worth in the Right Places." In this episode, we delve into the pivotal question: What is our discomfort in service of? We'll explore when we should allow things to be easy instead of assuming success and happiness require suffering.
Discover how to nurture genuine apprecia
90 - DE-CENTER EVERYTHING: men, women, beauty, feminism - focus on yourself
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In this week's "De-Center Everything: Men, Women, Beauty, Feminism & More – Focus on Yourself for True Empowerment" episode we consider how in the process of #realizingthings, we often get caught up in binaries and believe that if one thing doesn't work for us, we must swing to the opposite extreme. This podcast is about de-centering a
89 - dating for money, financial dynamics & sprinkle sprinkle
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This week we dip into the intriguing world of Shera Seven and the complex dynamics of 'dating for money.' From fleeting thoughts to evolving perspectives, we'll explore how my understanding of this phenomenon has evolved over time. Can clownery pay the bills? Probably not. But let's unpack the realities and nuances of 'dating for money'
88 - emotional accountability & relationship roadblocks
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Join us as we delve into the transformative concept of emotional accountability/responsibility. Ever experienced a moment where a term perfectly encapsulates a significant aspect of your life? That's precisely how I felt when I began reflecting on emotional accountability. It goes beyond
87 - 30 and no friends :( dealing w loneliness
special treat for friend crush listeners ~ i've received a few messages like this one so i felt the wheels turning in my brain and generated this response. i definitely missed out a few things but i hope that this provides helpful perspective for anyone that relates to the situation described.
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86 - situationships
this episode might be triggering for anyone that's convinced themselves that they like being in a situationship so listen at your own risk :)
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85 - jealousy is a disease - envy & jealousy
jealousyyyy is a disease fr - its a human experience, but one that when unmanaged can create more harm than good, mostly to yourself!!! how can we better understand and differentiate jealousy and envy we experience towards others and also when its directed towards us?
articles referenced:
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https://www.dictionary.com/e/jealousy-vs-envy/
84 - "high value women", growth & why people cheat
answering a listener message i received recently that prompted me to reflect on what it means to be a "high value woman" and my thoughts on this conversation that's been happening online, growth, trauma, grief and why people cheat.
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83 - quarter life crisis
i've done an episode on this before but i feel like its recently come up a lot in conversations with people in their early-mid 20s. my quarter life crisis was so intense but i feel like i've come out the other end better than i entered it so hopefully this gives you something to look forward to if you're going through this rn!! you are not alone
82 - non negotiable hobby
i think one of the best ways to develop healthier boundaries is to find activities that you care about that feel beneficial to you (keep you hot and having fun) and allow you to orient your schedule around them. it can't just be work because that's not always just for you, it needs to be a hobby! the dedication to investing time and or money to connecting with yourself is not only beneficial for y
